We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.
How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and strong. Because someday in your life you will have been all of these.
~George Washington Carver
Every man has his own idea of prosperity. For some it is family, for others health, for still others peace and for some material wealth. I have a friend who is not rich by society’s standards. In fact, he lives in a house made entirely of tires on a bit of land near the Arkansas river outside of Fort Smith, Arkansas. Yet he is one of the happiest and most well adjusted people I know.
The other day I was sitting in a little outdoor cafe listening to my friends Rose and Ben play music and sing. An older couple was sitting next to me and had overheard someone say I was a nurse and a massage therapist. So, during a break in the music he came over and asked me if I knew a good hypnotherapist. Then he said something really strange. He said, “You know I’ve made and lost two fortunes in my life and I think it’s all in my head. I think there’s a reason I keep losing everything.”
I just smiled. I’ve had similar luck, having lost everything I owned in a house fire in ’94, but, what I said to him was this: “Maybe it’s not in your head but in your heart. You know, I firmly believe that every time you give of yourself, you get back many times over.” He looked kind of puzzled then replied, “Well, that can get you in trouble, too.”
Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them and they bless you the giver.~ Benjamin Jowett
I had to admit there had been times when my generosity had not been appreciated, but, truth be known, there were many, many other times when is was.
People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within.
~ Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
~Ralph Waldo Emerson
A few years ago, my best friend’s son, Travis, was ill and dying of Ewing’s sarcoma. At the same time my daughter, Lauren, was suffering from Erythema nodosum. That was perhaps the most difficult time in my life, because seeing two young people suffer when I was healthy just didn’t seem fair.
At that time, I was unable to work due to my daughter’s condition, and was helping take care of our friend, Travis. It was just the right thing to do, and it kept me from feeling sorry for myself and gave me purpose.
During that time, I met so many new friends. While researching alternative and allopathic therapies for the kids, I made acquaintances with physicians and researchers around the world.
Lauren and Travis taught me several invaluable lessons:
- When you think you can’t go on, think again.
- Never give up until you take your last breath.
- It really is more important to give than to receive.
“Be of service. Whether you make yourself available to a friend or co-worker, or you make time every month to do volunteer work, there is nothing that harvests more of a feeling of empowerment than being of service to someone in need.”
“Paying it Forward”
I expect to pass through this world but once. Any good thing, therefore, that I can do or any kindness I can show to any fellow human being let me do it now. Let me not defer nor neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.
My father taught me many things: the importance of family, unconditional love, and to be thankful for any blessing. Perhaps the most important thing he taught me was this: if he could help someone, he did. He didn’t just talk the talk, he walked the walk. I’ve always tried to honor him by following in his footsteps.
When a man dies, if he can pass enthusiasm along to his children, he has left them an estate of incalculable value.
~T. A Edison
I have been blessed with an inquisitive and creative mind, a wealth of opportunities for education and personal growth, and two beautiful and healthy children, despite a six year battle with a debilitating disease for one of them.
To show my thanks, if you know someone who needs massage or nutritional counseling and cannot afford it I will work with them by either giving a discounted fee or taking a certain number of cases gratis.
Thank you and blessings. Namaste.